Communicating with your ex is difficult. In this episode of the OverDivorce podcast the hosts discuss alternatives to face-to-face confrontation.
Coming up with some ways to maintain your composure, and thinking of some tips and techniques to help you along the way is helpful.Email is a good way to make sure your words are chosen carefully. Sending that email immediately is ill-advised, however. Getting that off on the right foot is crucial. For those who have children, it’s essential to remember that ex-spouses are part of your life for as long as you are a parent. It’s easy to lose sight of that in the midst of a contentious divorce.
A healthy divorce recovery demands effective communications and often that simply means collecting, holding and managing your thoughts.
One tip explored by the hosts is to remember not to send anything that you write at night. Waiting until the morning and reading it again is helpful to keep things in control. Especially when you need to communicate your thoughts lucidly and with some serious forethought. You may write things at night but save them for the light of day when you have a clearer sense of your feelings. Approach all communications with sobriety, and a second mental framework to make sure that you are communicating what you intend.
The difficulties around social media are discussed including the pros and cons of blocking your ex as well as blocking them from your profile. Relationships with your children are discussed in podcast and the essential importance of leaving them out of the communication loop with your ex. As tempting and easy as it is to use them to relay messages the hosts remind listeners that it is not their role to share messages or insight about the status of your ex. Keep their participation in communications with your ex at a minimum.
A transcript of the podcast is available here