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Kyle Inghan giving advice to guys that are going through divorce.

How To Be A Gentleman During Your Divorce

Kyle Ingham, founder of The Distilled Man.com, joins the show. The Distilled Man is dedicated to helping guys become better men, it features articles, tips and life hacks that can help guys tackle new skills and live like a well-rounded gentleman. Kyle is also the author of the “48-Hour Gentleman: Your One-Weekend Guide to More Confidence, Poise and Manly Know-How.” During the show we talk about:

  • What he went through through during his split up.
  • Tips on reclaiming your space and your life.
  • Ideas on how to start getting your life on track.
  • Why Tom gets pissed off at Tom Ford and his Peewee Herman suits.
  • The importance of taking risks and trying new things.
  • What does it mean to be a gentleman this day in age?
  • How to find and develop your personal style.
  • The number one key to making a great cocktail.
  • How to make a perfect divorce guy drink.
  • How to make a kick ass steak.
  • Kyle put together a special link for OverDivorce listeners.

Kyle recommends the cook book How to Cook Everything by Mark Bittman.

You can check get Kyles free book here: 48-Hour Gentleman: Your One-Weekend Guide to More Confidence, Poise and Manly Know-How

Make sure that you go to Kyles website at The Distilled Man.com.

Dealing with divorce Sam Buser

Coping With The First Stages Of Divorce With Dr. Sam Buser

We’re talking about coping with the first stages of divorce with psychologist Dr. Sam Buser. He specializes in helping men to grow though their divorce. He’s taught graduate courses in marital and family therapy for 20 years at the University of Houston and the Baylor College of Medicine. He’s the past-president of both the Houston and Texas Psychological Associations.  He was the Director of the Family Therapy Program at the Houston Veterans Administration. Currently he is the Staff Psychologist for the Houston Fire Department and maintains a practice specializing in men’s issues, relationship problems, and adventure therapy. He is also the author of The Guy’s Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce. On this episode of the podcast we discuss:

  • The 2 most common questions that guys ask therapists about divorce.
  • How to know when to stop trying to get your ex back.
  • The two different mindsets of women that ask for divorce.
  • The relationship between fighting and reconciliation.
  • What to do if your wife wants a divorce.
  • Why women are attracted to guys that are going through divorce.
  • What women want most in a man.
  • One of the biggest problems that men have after divorce and how to solve it.
  • How to know when you are ready for another relationship.
  • The amount of time that you should wait before getting into a committed relationship.
  • How to deal with the separation period.
  • What to expect during the first few months of divorce.
  • How to communicate with your children about your divorce.
  • The guidelines for communicating with your ex-wife.
  • Two tricks to managing anger during divorce.
  • The benefits to adventure therapy.

Dr. Buser recommends reading: Breaking Barriers in Counseling Men: Insights and Innovations by Aaron Rochlen and Fredric Rabinowitz.

Make sure to check out Dr. Buser’s book http://www.guysonlyguides.com/

If you would like to work with or find out more about Dr. Buser go to his divorce website:

3435 Branard, Suite 202
Houston, Texas 77027-6031
Phone: (713) 623-2110

Dr. Sam Buser on The Over Divorce Podcast
Harmon Caldwell Divorce Advice and coping skills

Coping With Lawyers – Getting Over Divorce

Atlanta divorce attorney Harmon Caldwell joins the Over Divorce Podcast to help listeners cope with the difficulty selecting a divorce lawyer. Harmon has practiced law in for over 38 years. He has handled more than 1,000 high net worth divorce cases, he has tried over a 150 jury cases, and he has been involved in more than 70 cases in the Georgia Supreme Court.   He also wrote the Georgia Divorce Handbook, which is a layman’s guide to the Divorce process.  Harmon talks about:

  • The likelihood of having a jury cases for your divorce.
  • What to look for in a divorce attorney.
  • How to find and interview a divorce attorney.
  • Key things to ask a divorce lawyer before you hire one.
  • The biggest warning sign that you need to look when hiring an attorney.
  • The things that attorneys fear the most in handling a divorce case.
  • The biggest mistakes that wealthy clients make when getting divorced.
  • Should you change attorneys during a divorce?
  • Are prenuptial agreements a good idea?
  • How to use expert witnesses in a divorce.
  • Harmon’s best advice for getting through your divorce.
  • The importance of being confident during divorce.
  • The number of attorneys that you should interview before hiring one.

You can find out more about Harmon Caldwell by visiting his website:

You are able to get Harmon’s book here: Georgia Divorce Handbook

Harmon’s twitter handle is @HWCaldwell

Harmon Caldwells’ office address is:

Two Ravinia Drive, Suite 1600
Atlanta, GA 30346
404-843-4111

Honoree Corder Divorce Advice and Coping Skills

Coping Skills and Rules To Get Through Divorce: Honoree Corder Part 2

Coping with divorce expert Honorée Corder comes back to the show to give more solid advice on how to cope with your divorce. Honorée is the best-selling author of If Divorce is a Game, These are the Rules. She also has coaching program designed to give hope to people as they navigate their divorce.

Honorée talks about her rules of divorce and how implement them. She gives ideas on how to have a better experience getting through your divorce. She speaks about:

  • What a Systems Therapist is and how they can help you.
  • The notion of Karma during divorce.
  • The benefits of forgiveness and how to “fake” it until it becomes real.
  • Find out why the costs of your divorce are already predetermined.
  • How to reduce your attorney’s fees by using a divorce coach.
  • The importance communicating to your attorney exactly what you want.
  • The big events that happen during a divorce.
  • Things you can do to take care of yourself after your divorce.
  • The value of starting your divorce bucket list.
  • How long it will take you to get over your divorce.

Here is some information about Systems Therapy: http://www.goodtherapy.org/systems-theory-therapy.html

Make sure to check Honorée and her books/coaching programs at www.HonoreeCorder.com

Here Facebook address is www.facebook.com/Honoree

Follow her on Twitter at @Honoree

 

John McElhenney How To Survive A Divorce In A Positive Way

Coping With Divorce in a Positive Way With John McElhenney

Coping With Divorce in a Positive Way

John McElhenney joined us to talk about how he was able to develop a positive perspective while he was going through his divorce. John is a single dad who lives and writes in Austin, Texas. John is also the Divorce editor of The Good Men Project and is a contributing writer for the Huffington Post. During the show we talk about:

  • John’s epiphany that radically changed his thoughts about being a father in a positive way.
  • How he got clarity about making decisions during his divorce.
  • His realization about becoming a “Whole Parent” and the most important thing that he did to become one.
  • How John processed his emotions while going through his divorce so that negative thoughts wouldn’t impact his kids.
  • Learn John’s mental “Judo move” that changed his mind set about his divorce.
  • How your kids view what you are doing during your divorce and how that will impact their lives.
  • How he talked to his kids about some of the good things that came out of his divorce for him and his ex-wife.
  • John talks about how his parents’ divorce impacted him on how he was going to handle his own divorce.
  • How writing and journaling helps you get perspective on your thoughts and relieves some of the depression that comes with divorce.
  • How he was able to grieve during his divorce.
  • 3 things that John did so that he could cope with his divorce. These are techniques that John used to keep him distracted and let him have fun.

John recommends Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Another good book to check out is Iron John: A Book About Menby Robert Bly

Learn about the benefits of journaling here

We also recommend watching Boyhood.

John has published several books of poetry, his most recent book Impossible Love Poems: Love, Loss, Rebuilding, Recovery, Divorce, Dating, & Hoping for Love Again. He also wrote The Twitter Way – Book One / LIFE: Twitter As A Way of Enlightenment a whimsical look at social media. He makes his living writing social media strategies (uber.la) for small businesses.

Make sure to follow him on twitter @wholeparent

You can also check out his Facebook page www.facebook.com/wholeparent