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Tantric Sex As A Tool For Coping With Divorce

Tantric Sex and Coping With Divorce

Managing your sex drive is an important part of coping with divorce. August joins the show to talk about sex. She is a certified Reiki practitioner and has studied Tantra for over 20 years. On this episode of the podcast she talks about masturbation, sexual energy and taboos around sex.  During the show we talk about:

  • What tantric sex is.
  • How masturbation develops your sex muscle.
  • Whether or not you should masturbate.
  • How masturbation can lead to shame for young men.
  • What women want most out of a sexual experience.
  • Sexual Kung Fu and the redistribution of sexual energy.
  • Find out the difference between orgasms and ejaculation.
  • Learn about the “job” of tantric practice.

You can find out more about August her experience and practice at http://sensualhealingarts.wordpress.com/

Coping With Shame

This is a great Ted Talk. Brene Brown discusses her research into shame and touches on some very fine points that are truly helpful in any effort to cope with a divorce.

We deal with shame a lot during divorce. Thoughts of guilt and shame distract us from our careers and the task of putting our lives back together.

Ms. Brown’s research shows that it’s helpful to distinguish those two emotions when we find ourselves caught up in a whirlwind of self-inflicted insults and distress.

There’s good news- confronting shame and vulnerability are keys in breaking through to new levels of success and creativity. Her research suggests that you really can’t innovate effectively without being vulnerable to shame-and knowing how to manage it.

Effectively managing shame seems to be through empathy, forgiveness and perseverance. Easy prescriptions that are challenging to fill. Still, it’s obvious that the rewards of doing so are highly enriching.

Tools for getting through divorce.

Tools To Help Co-Parenting During and After Divorce

Jai Kissoon joins the OverDivorce podcast; he is the CEO and president of Our Family Wizard a leading co-parenting tool.  His company provides resources to help families deal with all the stress around scheduling and communicating during divorce. They have some cool tools to help manage kids’ schedules, visitation times, calendaring and messaging systems. Jai talks about:

  • How online tools can help you communicate with your ex.
  • Technology that allows you to manage time with your children when going through a divorce.
  • The importance of having a good system to document correspondence and bills.
  • How to avoid some of the biggest challenges with communicating with your ex-wife during divorce.
  • Some common mistakes that divorcing parents make when going through a divorce.
  • The importance of getting peace with your ex.
  • Some best practices for scheduling time with your kids.

Here is the link from Working Mothers about Our Family Wizard:

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Their phone number is: (866) 755-9991

Scott Lopez Interview on Mental Toughness and Divorce Coping Skills

Scott Lopez: Mental Toughness And Coping With Divorce -Over Divorce Podcast

Scott Lopez Discusses Mental Toughness And Coping With Divorce

Scott Lopez is a former Marine Corps Officer and fighter pilot, has MBA in International Management, and is highly competitive Brazilian Jiu Jitsu athlete.  Scott has been divorced twice and shares his insight on how he was able to develop a strong mental outlook to help him get through both his divorces.

Scott provides great advice on coping with divorce by talking about:

  • How your thoughts are at the pinnacle of who you are and how they control your emotions and behavior.
  • How to take responsibility of your actions during your divorce so that you are more empowered.
  • The importance of being prepared for the divorce process.
  • The value of expanding your social circle and how friends enrich your life during and after your divorce.
  • How to make progress in your life by developing your competencies: Knowledge, Skills and Attitude
  • The process of thought patterns. How thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions, which lead to results, which lead to new thoughts.
  • Scott discusses his formula of success which include:
    • The importance of having a long term vision for your life.
    • The need to have an action plan to take you in the direction that you want to go.
    • The ability to be tenacious and to persevere.
    • The requirement to always be learning and be open to new ideas.
  • How being accountable for your actions can accelerate your growth.

Scott recommended The Work of Byron Katie, which can be found at: http://www.thework.com

Scott lives in California where he raises his two daughters half of the time. He now coaches individuals and business executives how to develop mental toughness to think better, perform better, and increase earnings and profits.

You can find out more about Scott at www.SuccessWithScott.com

You can check out his Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ascendingmentaltoughness/